By the time we hit 50, we have learned our hardest lessons. We have found out that only a few things are really important. We have learned to take life seriously, but never ourselves. – Marie Dressler
So, it’s here. My 50th birthday. Ten years ago, this seemed like a milestone, like a turning point (and not necessarily a positive one). But now that it is here, it seems a little like an accomplishment.
It is, of course, better than the alternative!
And, though there are many pieces out there on the good things about turning 50, I will do my best to add a few of my own, or at least to confirm some that are already out there. I guess it is all a matter of perspective. There are many positive aspects to the number 50.
A 50% off sale comes to mind.
But there’s more. My twenties passed in a blur and seemed to be dominated by a search for my own identity. Then came the thirties, a good decade occupied mostly by filling my children’s lives with as much fun and opportunity as I could muster. The forties weren’t too bad either; everyone slept through the night by then but it was still exhausting. It was a constant run of soccer, softball and volleyball games, concerts and ceremonies, proms and graduations.
And now, here we are. I can already feel the difference, the freedom that comes from this time in my life. By now, I have ferreted out the truest group of friends, the ones with staying power, the keepers. These are the ones who are happy when things go well in your life and grieve with you when they don’t. It took a half a century to find these friends. They were worth the wait.
Some wisdom comes to us in our 50’s though it is never enough. In my career, I have learned I cannot fix all that is wrong. In the end, I found, things turn out mostly ok. We lose some things when the pendulum of education swings, but we gain some things, too. Finding the balance between what you want and what is…this is easier now.
You lose the excuses and start taking control. Start a business, write a story, wear what you want, learn something new…
Odds are good.
I’d say 50/50, at least…;)